As dating apps have become increasingly common, concerns about their excessive use have grown. Tinder, a widely used app, exemplifies this trend. While it enables connections, recent reports emphasize the risk of addiction.
The story of a British man serves as a cautionary tale, his reliance on Tinder involved daily swiping through hundreds of profiles, leading him to seek professional assistance in overcoming this habit. This highlights the potential drawbacks of excessive app usage
According to a New York Post report, Ed Turner, a 27-year-old Tinder user, didn’t primarily seek a match on the app. Instead, he craved validation. The thrill of seeing how many women “liked” his profile gave him an adrenaline rush. Surprisingly, he had no intention of meeting these women in person. Strikingly, his emotional well-being seemed to depend on their responses; he felt disheartened if they didn’t reply to his messages.
Man seeks therapy after swiping 500 profiles a day on Tinder.
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“I would get highs when I was getting a lot of matches with people that I found attractive but it would always be followed by a crash because it’s not sustainable,” Mr Turner said.
Motivated by a craving for external validation, the British man recognized that Tinder had become his primary emotional support. He extended his online dating footprint by setting up profiles on Hinge and Bumble, indulging in indiscriminate swiping.
Mr. Turner allegedly juggled simultaneous conversations with as many as ten women, seemingly anticipating their initiation of communication.
“Since I was swiping right on everyone and fully engulfed in the ‘game’, I lost all sense of self. Those apps affected my entire mood and personality,” he claimed, adding that it distorted his reality.
Despite connecting with someone special on Tinder and being in a relationship with her, his addiction lured him back to the app. “It made me feel like an inadequate partner. Although I never engaged with other women while in that relationship, it still had an impact on me,” he confessed. “The initial thrill had faded.”
Following the relationship’s demise, he actively sought therapy and received diagnoses of depression and borderline personality disorder. As reported by the New York Post, he has since abandoned the use of dating apps.
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